I MARRIED A SCAMMER IN GHANA

How I escaped a marriage that was draining me and taking me for everything I had.

I was at the beginning stages of reconnecting with God figuring out the bible and cleansing

myself of all the demonic things I had tapped into while I was in Las Vegas. It was that time of

year for me to travel. I had kept myself so Isolated after going through this whole so called "woke" phase. I wasn't able to connect with people as if I didn't already have a difficult time before with being shy all my life. I was now thinking everyone probably thought I was crazy with all that "woke" talk. So I decided to try out online dating. I met this African guy. Started

as a cool conversation. Even though he wasn't the typical type I would go for I thought to look beyond the physical and get to know him deeper. I guess what got me was all the Empress this, Queen that, beautiful ect . I wasn't use to all of that. Even from my previous relationships. So I fell for it. I start to ask questions just to make sure things was real. He knew what to and not to say.

Africa where to and not to go?

It was now fall. The time of year I set goals to travel at least 2-3 countries. So had Africa in mind trying to pick which country I wanted to go explore. As I did my research trying to figure out where I wanted to go. I only wanted Tanzania or South Africa. During that time he

persuaded me to come to Ghana. Which if it wasn't for him I probably would have never put

Ghana on my list as a place to go.

With no regrets i'm glad I went to Ghana. I was able to learn parts of history that's untold . I experienced the life of how other cultures live that made me grateful for things I once took for granted, As well as help me to learn more self sufficient things for survival purposes and independency.

Red Flags to Wedding Bells

During the time I had originally planned to go to Africa just for a visit I had to make changes in my plans for what was a red flag number 1. The Mr now was making

attempts for to get in my pockets with

struggle issues. Because I have a big heart

I listened to his story about not having the money to renew his lease. I should have ran but this is where that part of being a down chick kicked in and I thought I was doing the right thing. His games of manipulation was starting to win. But I

was overlooking it saying that was the devil giving me those negative thoughts.

So my plans changed to instead of just going as a trip I was going to go and spend a long time there. To get to know him more as well as still travel to the other countries.

I felt it was a sign when Ghana started promoting the year of return and easy rights to citizenship or just extending your stay in case I decided to stay longer. I also had the opportunity to partner with another organization in Uganda. So I just felt things were lining up and meant to be. When I got to Ghana I had a hard time adjusting. But eventually I did.

I noticed the changes and red flags here and there happening with the Mr. I was having dreams almost every night God just showing me things that was going to happen but because I just wanted love I just would say it was the devil. The Mr. had a slick way of getting money out of me. Money was going fast. I would try to help support and create business opportunities for him and invest in it and I would get left hanging. I had a chance to leave once and luckily a friend I had met there had an extra apartment I moved into. This was when I found leads to other people he was trying to scam.

Why did I go back? After he had his friends, malim and himself beg me I tried to find a place in my heart that people can change and give another chance. Plus I just really was too embarrass to have to come back to America and explain to my family the mistake I made in my choice of love. I just wanted to have hope it would work and in a way I felt stuck and something had a hold on me.

After thinking everything was good fast forward to marriage planning. When I say everything that could go wrong went wrong and God did everything to stop that marriage from happening. We had the run around for like a whole month of things getting denied. I had to spend money on so much and I was unhappy about it. I just really wanted my parents to be proud of me for something and I was hoping being married would be one thing because I kept hearing the pressure from family and friends questioning when I was going to have kids and I just wanted to do things in the right order. Everything that went wrong I fought for it thinking the devil just wanted to destroy my marriage and relationship when really it was God just trying to protect me the whole time from what he knew the Mr had planned.

So after the marriage I start to get the pressure about citizenship and threats that if I didn't get him a citizenship within a year he was going to leave and so much toxic arguments every day. A month later I received some news from my dad. So I took a flight back to the U.S for my dad. With plans to only be there for a few weeks and return back to Ghana. While I was in Atlanta I started receiving some messages from another woman he had been trying to scam

also and she sent me some info that helped me to make my decision to leave him and not return. It made everything so easy since I was already away. I just left everything behind moved to New York and started over with my life and just been working on myself and connecting to God.

I say to people that this can happen to anyone because I have spoke with people that has said it would never happen to them and I said the same and so have many others but when you teach yourself something and practice it daily you master it and to a person that does not study being a scammer on a daily basis you can be fooled by such evil.

I'm in a happy place now because I forgave him and myself. I'm thankful because of that situation I have found my true self and i'm loving every bit of me and thankful for Gods love and protection.

If you have fallen victim take your time to heal, forgive and don't be afraid to share your story. Pray for wisdom and discernment

Let no man deceive you with vain words: for because of these things cometh the wrath of God upon the children of disobedience.

Be not ye therefore partakers with them.

For ye were sometimes darkness, but now are ye light in the Lord: walk as children of light:

(For the fruit of the Spirit is in all goodness and righteousness and truth;)

Proving what is acceptable unto the Lord.

And have no fellowship with the unfruitful works of darkness, but rather reprove them.

For it is a shame even to speak of those things which are done of them in secret.

Ephesians 5: 6-12